ShoutOut to my teenage self: Ivana Bacik

ShoutOut to my teenage self is a series of letters from inspiring figures in the LGBT community and allies to themselves as teenagers. Our third contributor is Prof. Ivana Bacik

Senator Ivana Bacik is one of Ireland's most prominent LGBT allies. She is a barrister and Reid Professor of Criminal Law and Criminology at Trinity College Dublin. First elected as a Senator for Dublin University in 2007, she was re-elected in 2011 and 2016, and currently leads the Labour group in Seanad Eireann.

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Dear Ivana,

As a teenage girl in secondary school in the 1980s you would be amazed at how much positive change has come about in Ireland over the decades since. One of the biggest changes has been greater equality for women and for LGBT people. In the 1980s, secondary school students would not have been very aware about LGBT issues, and indeed the term ‘LGBT’ was not generally used. Homosexuality was still a criminal offence (it was only decriminalised in 1993 in Ireland). Only when I started at university, in Trinity College Dublin in 1985, did I begin to learn about Gay rights. We had a very active Gay Soc on campus, as well as a Women’s Group, and we used to run joint campaigns on sexual liberation and on lots of other issues – student fees were rising annually, unemployment was very high (18%), and most of us expected to have to emigrate when we left college, so a lot of our campaigns were on economic issues. But Trinity staff and students also led the way on social campaigns around decriminalisation of homosexuality, women’s rights and contraception. David Norris was lecturing in the English Department, Mary Robinson in the Law School; we knew our lecturers were on our side in these progressive social campaigns. We even had an (illegal) condom machine in the Students’ Union shop; although it kept getting vandalised by those who disagreed with it! 

In general, the atmosphere in Trinity was very socially and sexually liberated – much more so than in any secondary school, or even any other college, in the deeply conservative Ireland of the time. But we were still greatly affected by the social and religious conservatism around us. As President of Trinity Students’ Union in 1989, I and my fellow officers were taken to court and threatened with prison because of our advocacy on reproductive rights. I am very proud that we students took a stand in support of our beliefs despite the threat of legal sanctions.

Of course, Ireland has changed so much since then, with decriminalisation of homosexuality after David Norris’ brave court case in the 1980s, the legalisation of contraception and divorce in the 1990s, the wonderful marriage equality referendum success in 2015 and greater economic prosperity, that’s it now hard to understand the incredible difference that the liberated Trinity College atmosphere made to all of us lucky enough to be in college then. 

As a young woman and a feminist, my natural inclination was to support my friends and comrades in Gay Soc with their campaigns and actions. Since that time, I have always endeavoured to be a strong LBGT ally. In fact, after leaving college and qualifying as a barrister, I represented Katherine Zappone and Ann Louise Gilligan in their courageous High Court case seeking the right to marry – a case which paved the way for the referendum some years later. These campaigns take time, but we have now won many of them and I hope we will win more.

So my message to you is, keep up the fight, keep campaigning– don’t give up – things will get better! Finally, as an LGBT ally you must always speak up and advocate for those who are discriminated against, bullied or given a hard time because of their sexuality. An injury to one is an injury to all. We are all together in the fight for an Equal Ireland.

Ivana

 

ShoutOut to my teenage self: Shar Nolan

ShoutOut to my teenage self is a series of letters from inspiring figures in the LGBT community and allies to themselves as teenagers. Our second contributor is Shar Nolan.

Shar is a queer activist from the West of Ireland and a coordinator for Bi+ Ireland. They dream of making the world more inclusive of the entire LGBTQIA+ community whatever way they can, and getting the 8th repealed. They can usually be found (giving out) at @sharmander_says on Twitter.

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Hey Sharon,

I know you’re stubborn and that you think you know all there is to know about the world but I think I’ve got some tips that’ll help you navigate your way through the next few years and beyond. Firstly? You’re going to finally let yourself free from behind your pile of books. You know all of those opinions, passions and love you have, that you were just too scared to show? You’re pretty damn outspoken about them now! That crippling lack of self-confidence does ease off with time too. Even if it doesn’t disappear, you learn to power through it regardless!

You’re going to go through a lot of phases. Historical vampire theories, true crime novels, mini top hats with every outfit, and neon blue eyeshadow being your staple look to name a few.  But your bisexuality? It will end up being one of the aspects of yourself that you’re most certain about.

There are going to be some hurdles along the way because not everyone is as sure or as comfortable with your bisexuality as you will be. There will be a lot of coming out, and (frustratingly) repeated coming out. There will be awkward dinnertime conversations and late night DMCs (deep meaningful conversations). They’ll even be talking about being bisexual on TV, and the sky doesn’t fall in!

Also? You don’t have to be the ‘perfect’ bisexual. You don’t have to defensively tell people you like boys and girls 50/50 (because we know that’s a lie about how you feel), or accuse others who aren’t bi+ in the ways you imagined it as ‘not being bi enough’. That’s just some internalised biphobia, but you’ll work through it and come out the other side better than ever, and ready to recognise that our community all experience attraction in different ways, and that doesn’t make anyone any more or less bisexual. Your frustrated annoyance at gay bars and pride events wasn’t the bigotry you thought it was - but instead a reactionary frustration for not experiencing the acceptance, welcome and representation in those ‘gay spaces’ that you expected.

I can’t lie, the unexpected biphobia within your new LGBT+ home will hurt. You expected some of your straight friends to have doubts and questions, and to assume ugly stereotypes, but your fellow community members? That will sting. This experience leaves a fire in your belly though, and lead to you making a commitment with yourself to work towards changing that experience for others who come out as bisexual, pansexual, or anyone who’s attracted to more than one gender. While on this journey, you will find your community. You’ll meet some of the greatest friends anyone could ask for - all while you’re growing, finding your feet and speaking out more.

With this, you’ll also get the opportunity to join the amazing Bi+ Ireland team! You’ll get to help create events and spaces for anyone under the bisexual umbrella to meet each other and support each other, you’ll get to help represent the community at different prides across Ireland, and together you’ll work towards bi+ visibility and inclusion throughout society. I may be ‘bi’ased (heh), but we have a fantastic coordinator team and you’re going to love them all so much. The most amazing part of it all though is that you’ll get to help be part of the movement to create spaces for our bi+ community throughout Ireland, ando work towards making the spaces you and so many others dream of!

With being bisexual, this happens to lead to you dating people of different genders over the years. The main difference isn’t how you feel about each of them - but how society reacts around this. Holding a girl’s hand in public the first time will be a scary experience, and seeing how the social dynamics of being read as ‘queer’ for the first time has the world viewing you through a whole new lens. Luckily, Ireland is a much kinder and compassionate place in 2017 to be LGBT+ than when you first come out, so as the years go by it’s going to get easier, with further support from the wider community.

Most importantly? You’re still as big an emo kid as ever - and yes, you do finally get to see Taking Back Sunday and My Chemical Romance in concert!

In all seriousness though - you’ve got this better than you ever realised, I promise, and you’ll be Taoiseach before you know it!

Love always

Sharon

For more information on Bi+ Ireland's work visit http://www.biireland.com/ 

 

New Chair of the Board Elected!

Declan Meehan has been elected as Chair of the Board of Directors of ShoutOut. Declan has been involved with ShoutOut since its beginning in 2012, when ShoutOut first ran a pilot scheme in just 10 schools in Dublin. Over the past 5 years he has worked in various roles with the organisation, most recently establishing ShoutOut as an all-Ireland organisation by bringing ShoutOut workshops to Northern Ireland through a partnership with Cara-Friend, of which Declan is Deputy Director. Declan is also the Vice-Chair of the Northern Ireland Anti-Bullying Forum, as well as a committee member of the campaign for marriage equality in Northern Ireland, Love Equality. 

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“It is an honour to be chosen as Chair of the Board of Directors of ShoutOut", said Declan. "The recent registration of ShoutOut as an official charity, combined with the appointment of Bella FitzPatrick as Director, and the restructuring of our Board of Directors with the position of Chair, are all important steps in ensuring the professionalisation and continued growth of ShoutOut. As Chair I am committed to supporting the excellent work of our volunteers, and our Director, as well as staff in schools all across Ireland. We want to ensure that every LGBTQ+ student in Ireland can bring their full and truest self to school every morning, and leave their school day in the afternoon without having experienced bullying or negativity because of who they are. ShoutOut is committed to changing the experiences of LGBTQ+ young people for the better in secondary schools across Ireland. We are also committed to the principles of transparency and good governance as a registered charity." 

In addition to Declan Meehan, the Board of Directors is comprised of Eoin O'Liatháin, Clare Ní Cheallaigh, Paul Behan and Anna Keogh. The Board will seek to expand its membership in early 2018 to broaden its diversity and expertise. 

You're Hired!

We are delighted to announce our first employee! 

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Commencing immediately Bella FitzPatrick will take up post as ShoutOut’s Director. Bella has been with ShoutOut for over 3 years and has worked tirelessly to ensure our school and volunteer networks have continued to expand. We are delighted to have her join in this capacity.

In her own words, “I'm so honoured to be ShoutOut's first paid employee. It’s my privilege to work with so many wonderful volunteers, teachers, students and workplaces. I want to work myself of a job; I want the concept of being bullied for your gender identity, sexual orientation, sexual characteristics or gender expression to be a thing of the past. We have a long way to go, but we will get there. ”

Since it’s inception 5 years ago ShoutOut has been an entirely voluntary organisation. We’ve relied on a committee and volunteer community to give up their time, energy and passion towards the mission of safe schools.

Now the scale and breadth of our operations, the demands of managing 10 school projects every week, as well as our newly formed corporate programme, has meant the need to move toward a more formal structure. We’re confident this will ensure the sustainability and quality of service for our organisation. Please join us in congratulating Bella and celebrating this exciting milestone for ShoutOut.

Warm regards,

Eoin, Paul, Declan, Clare, Anna,

ShoutOut to my teenage self: Aoife Martin

ShoutOut to my teenage self is a series of letters from inspiring figures in the LGBT community and allies to themselves as teenagers. Our first contributor is Aoife Martin. 

Aoife is an IT professional and outspoken advocate for trans rights. She trended on Twitter once and has been dining off the glory of that ever since. In her spare time Aoife enjoys wrestling her unwieldy book collection into shape and having opinions on film. She can be found babbling away on Twitter where her handle is @aoifemrtn. 

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Dear Aoife,

Is it okay if I call you Aoife? I know that's not your name at the moment and you haven't even thought of it as a name, but maybe when you read this letter you'll consider it. I think of you often, you know. Especially during those troubled years - the dreaded teenage years, as mam liked to call them. They're never much fun, are they? I probably shouldn't tell you then that you're going to have to do it all over again - only this time instead of testosterone coursing its way through your body it's going to be oestrogen. Maybe that makes it easier. It's not everyone who gets a second chance at puberty but at least this time it'll be the correct hormones.
I know it’s not easy being at an all-boys’ school and having to wear those bland scratchy grey trousers and bland woollen grey jumper that makes sure you’re not seen as an individual. Nor is it easy for you to fit in. You don’t want people to realise. You make jokes and you laugh so that people don’t realise. You act the eejit so that people don’t realise. You talk the talk so that people don’t realise. Your body is changing but not in the way that it should but you don’t want people to realise.

If I tell you that you’ll get past this will it make it easier? If I tell you that one day you won’t have to sneak around stealing chances where you can to try on a skirt or a dress or some makeup will you believe me? That one day you’ll be out and proud of who you are and not embarrassed or ashamed to be you? That you’ll be able to go out in broad daylight and not be terrified that people are laughing at you or worse? That you’ll have friends who will accept that you are a woman and treat you as such? Or that one day, you will refer to yourself as trans woman and be proud of that fact? What? Sorry, yes, trans woman. That’s a word you won’t have heard yet. It’s a nice word. Much nicer than transvestite or transsexual, those clinical words that do their very best to obscure the person underneath. We are so much more than our labels, aren’t we?

If I could tell you two things, other than buy shares in Apple, is first of all that it’s okay to be transgender. That’s important and worth repeating. It’s okay to be transgender. I know you might think you’re the only person who feels this but you’re not. How do I know? Wait until you discover the internet, Kiddo. The internet? It’s too hard to explain but it will open your world. You’ll meet people who love you and accept you for who you are and you’ll have a grand old time.

The second thing I’d say to you, and I hope I’m not going all preachy on you here, is talk to people. People who love you. People you can trust. I know it’s not easy because what you’re hiding inside feels so shameful and embarrassing but it’s not. I repeat again: it’s okay to be transgender. Trans people are awesome. How do I know? Because I’m one, you’re one and you, Aoife (I really like that name you know), are amazing. You belong to a unique group of pioneering people who have been around since time immemorial and who challenge the status quo. That makes people uneasy. People don’t like to be challenged. But this is your life, not theirs. They can’t tell you to be someone who you’re not. Be you. Be strong. Be awesome.

I won’t lie and tell you that it’s going to be easy. It’s a bumpy road ahead and you’ll take many wrong turns, but that’s life isn’t it? In that respect you’re no different to anyone else. We all make mistakes and sometimes we even learn from those mistakes. But remember this, it’s those mistakes that make us who we are. Try not to beat yourself up over the ifs and the buts and the what-could-have-beens. Someone wiser than me once said that which does not kill us makes us stronger. And it’s true.

You have a long and difficult journey ahead but you will get there. How do I know? Because I did. We did.  

Sincerely yours,

Aoife.

PS It’s okay to be transgender.

ShoutOut at ILGA Europe!

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Earlier this month ShoutOut were lucky enough to be able to send Managing Director, Bella FitzPatrick, to the ILGA Europe Annual Conference which took place in Warsaw. We want to express so much gratitude to ILGA Europe who sponsored Bella's trip over, making it possible for ShoutOut to be represented at this incredible event. Here's how Bella found the experience:

The theme of the event was: "Change! Communities mobilising, movements rising!", which was very fitting for me as a volunteer working to create safe schools on the Island of Ireland. 

Among the incredible workshops and talks I was able to attend a meeting about youth work hosted by the amazing organisation IGLYO. IGLYO showed us how they are assessing the level of LGBTQIA+ safety and inclusion in schools across Europe. 

Next I learned about research into safe schools from US org GLSEN. We can't wait to work with IGLYO and GLSEN in the future! 

We heard worrying statistics from the True Colors Fund about how LGBTQIA+ youth are affected by homelessness in greater numbers then their cis-straight counterparts, and how much a stable home and welcoming schools are vital for LGBTQIA+ young people. 

As well as workshops and talks on safe schools and youth issues, I was able to attend workshops on a variety of topics such as bi visibility, parent support, and intersex rights. 

On the last evening we went to the Palace of Culture and Science which was aglow with rainbow colours! 

This conference was truly transformative, and I'm very lucky that I was sponsored to go, and that I have such an understanding day job that always make room for my work with ShoutOut.


 

Meet a ShoutOuter - Ross Hunter

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ShoutOut isn't one person, it's dozens and dozen of volunteers! This is how we do so many workshops. It's the beginning of November and we've already 50 workshops this school year!

Ross is one of our most committed volunteers. Learn more about Ross!

Hey guys! I’m Ross, a 21 year old from Meath with a passion for meditation, psychology and most importantly ShoutOut! I’ve been a volunteer for about two years now and I can safely say it has been one of the most fulfilling and enjoyable experiences I’ve had in college!

I remember walking into my first workshop looking like my dog after he’s peed on the new carpet. I.was.so.nervous. Thoughts flew through my head “What if they act out?”, “What if they ask me a question I don’t know the answer to?”. My anxieties were soon eased as I was introduced to my partner for the day Conor. Conor was a ShoutOut veteran and all round cool guy. He helped me through my first workshop and gave me all the hints and tips I could ever want. It was bizarre yet liberating sharing my story of coming out with a group of 14 year olds (now it feels like reciting a shopping list!).

I couldn’t help but think that one of those kids could easily have been and just how beneficial I would have found it! What I love most about ShoutOut is the feeling after you finish a workshop (and that’s not just from the free lunch!). You really feel like you have made a difference. Just standing up there, as a LGBT* individual you can be a role model, a voice and that can be a lifeline in itself

10 Tips to Ensure Supportive Schools!

There's likely an LGBTQ+ student in almost every classroom across Ireland. Here are our ten tips to ensure a supportive school environment:

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1. Ensure the school's anti-bullying policy clearly & explicitly addresses homophobic and transphobic bullying. 

2. Include all types of families and relationships in class discussions, lessons and resources. The silences around certain representations can be very loud for some students.

3. When pupils use phrases such as ‘that’s so gay’ or ‘you’re so gay’ it's essential for the teacher / principal to challenge this. Even if it's not intended as an insult, it can be inferred as such and must not be tolerated.

4. If a student comes out to you respond by thanking them for telling you, continue by asking about their experience in telling others, and let them know of the internal and external support available if needed.

5. Put up an LGBT themed poster!

6. Take part in Stand Up!, a national week against homophobic and transphobic bullying.

6.. Have an SPHE class on the differences between sexual orientation and gender. 

7. Respect the correct gender, name and pronoun for addressing transgender or intersex students.  

8. Transgender students should be allowed to wear a uniform that corresponds with their gender identity and access toilet and changing facilities that correspond with their gender identity.

10. Book a free ShoutOut workshop!

ShoutOut Wins a Belfast Pride Award!

We're delighted to announce that ShoutOut has won a BelfastPride Award along with Cara-Friend for our LGBTQ+ Inclusive Schools Programme!

Last year ShoutOut and Cara-Friend partnered together for the use of our schools programme for schools in Northern Ireland.

For this 27 workshops we're delivered in 10 schools reaching 800+ young people.

Along with Cara-Friend we're very grateful for everyone who voted for us!

Along with Cara-Friend we're very grateful for everyone who voted for us!